Vignettes Both Light and Dark from a Food Writer’s Childhood

Book review: Toast, by Nigel Slater (Amazon / Book Depository)

“If you really want to, dear,’ was my mother’s answer for anything I wanted to do that she would rather I didn’t. This was her stock answer to my question: Can I make a fruit sundae? By make I meant assemble. My fruit sundae was a gloriously over-the-top mess of strawberry ice cream, tinned fruit cocktail, maraschino cherries and any nuts I could lay my hands on. I always saved a cherry for the centre. Believe me when I tell you it was the envy of all who set eyes upon it.

British food writer Nigel Slater’s Toast is a coming-of-age memoir in vignettes of food-centric memories from his childhood and adolescence. The moments and scenes it recalls are funny, awkward, frightening, sometimes disgusting, and elsewhere, quietly heartbreaking. In these anecdotes he portrays the childhood of a somewhat selfish loner who’s undernourished, physically and emotionally, and peppered with surprisingly serious, disturbing incidents, given the levity elsewhere.

Nigel’s mother wasn’t exactly a good cook, so this is an unusual foodoir, centered not around the fondly recalled, lovingly prepared meals of family life but rather the meals his mother labored to produce on special occasions and the ready-made items that substituted the rest of the time. But she also wasn’t quite as bad a cook as Slater seems to think (just not quite the chef he’d become himself — I love reading his recipes in The Guardian and they’re of quite a different caliber than what her straightforward, working-class 1960s/70s British repertoire consisted of.)

He states his belief that it’s impossible not to love someone who makes toast for you, even when it’s burnt and scraped like his mother’s inevitably was, establishing the tone– a little snarky but sentimental, close to his mother and haunted by recollections of her struggling to breathe, heavily foreshadowing what was coming.

But beginning with his cheerful toast philosophy, it’s a tour through brilliantly rendered scenes and the nostalgia of the meals, snacks, and junk food that make them memorable. Slater tells stories from his young life up until arriving in London, taking a job at the Savoy Hotel grill with culinary school on the horizon, marking the gritty but promising moment when he stepped into his future in food.

I read this with book in one hand and phone in the other, because Slater unleashes a parade of British candies, chocolates, ready-made items, and popular dishes of the period and his family’s working-class background that were totally foreign. Being deeply interested in international junk foods, I excitedly googled it all. This was a highlight of the book for me. I love when an author can write about lower-brow foods and products and still capture the significance of it all, especially knowing of Slater’s future career, writing about food for The Observer and Marie Claire, and this was the genesis of his relationship to food and cooking.

Even knowing nothing about most of the items (I was thrilled to see Heinz Salad Cream at an international grocery store shortly after reading this, although it sounds too icky to try) I still fully understood his connection to them. It was delightful to see a childhood through this lens, and his excitement was always palpable, although an underlying sadness is present, too. It felt true and lifelike to me — the uproariously funny does go hand in hand with darker, tougher, upsetting occurrences.

The latter portion of the book revolves around the sadness and coping that marked the rest of his childhood. His mother died when he was nine, and a few years later his father remarried, to their cleaner, dubbed Mrs. Potter. Nigel was no fan of hers. He insinuates that Mrs. Potter was most interested in his father’s money, and cooked rich, decadent meals despite Mr. Slater’s worsening health conditions. The competition for his father’s attention is also a factor, leading to pettiness like her refusal to share her lemon meringue pie recipe and Nigel resorting to counting eggshells in the trash, trying to suss it out.

The book’s early tone tricked me a bit into thinking this would be a nostalgic, food-filled romp through childhood–how can you not think so when a hilarious scene describes the family trying spaghetti bolognese, accented with cardboard drum of Parmesan, for the first time: “Daddy, this cheese smells like sick,’ I tell him. ‘I know it does, son, don’t eat it. I think it must be off.’ We never had spaghetti bolognese or Parmesan cheese again.’”

Not what I expected– darker and more dysfunctional– but a heartfelt, immensely readable, and vividly depicted slice of life from a particular place and era, and the moments that shaped a popular food writer. 4/5

Toast: The Story of a Boy’s Hunger
by Nigel Slater
published 2003

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15 thoughts on “Vignettes Both Light and Dark from a Food Writer’s Childhood

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  1. Isn’t salad cream just mayo? At least, that’s what it sounds like!

    Anne Lamott argues in her book on writing, Bird by Bird, that there is one fool-proof way to get people talking and interested in memory and writing: ask them what they had for lunch in elementary school. Instantly, an entire creative writing class will start freaking out with the memories they’d long forgotten.

    Take it one step further: the food we ate in our youth completely shaped who we are as adults, whether it’s the was nutrition (or lack thereof), what we think of as a “normal” meal to eat, where and when we eat that food, etc. I think food is utterly fascinating and sad.

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    1. Salad cream uses different amounts of basically the same ingredients as mayo so the flavor turns out differently. It’s more vinegary. But I’m not a mayo fan either, so I’m equally icked out by both! I think it was the descriptions he used here of taking it on picnics and at dinners, sitting in a bowl with a spoon. I can’t imagine just glopping mayonnaise onto a salad and that’s what it sounded like they did…blech.

      That’s such a fascinating point Anne Lamott makes. Even just reading your comment and thinking about my own experience, I completely get the point she’s making, wow. Pretty visceral!

      And you’re right, the food of our youth does shape us intensely, for better or for worse, sadly. It’s clear from this author’s writing that he always wanted something more, and was so fascinated by food and preparing it and by what other people ate that it’s not surprising he built the career he did for himself. This is the only book I’ve read of his but he’s done a couple of “kitchen diaries” that sound really interesting and seem to have a reflective, psychological component. But it can be such a sad topic as well.

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  2. I’ve gone off Slater a bit recently (he used to be one of my favourite food writers) because he persistently claims to be from a working-class background, but at the same time engages in a lot of food snobbery in his books. Reading memoir-y bits in his other books, it’s very clear he wasn’t working class (his dad had a car, a city job, and a cleaner!), which put me off him a bit. I had written this book off as a result, but it actually sounds more interesting than I had expected – I might give it a try.

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    1. I haven’t read anything else by him and he doesn’t always go into explicit detail but I got the impression that his dad earned more money later, they moved to a bigger house after his mother’s death and around then the cleaning lady/second wife got involved, and he hints it was at least partly financially motivated. They didn’t seem poor by any means but just what I would consider working-class (maybe being American I have a different perception of what constitutes this too!) I’m not surprised he might’ve gotten snobbish about food when they ate like they did, very basic and a lot of premade stuff, with even Parmesan cheese being too exotic. It seems to have pushed him to want something more, going to culinary school and whatnot. I did really like it and think it’s well worth a read!

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      1. I get the impression that working class and middle class mean quite different things in the US, so that might be it. Weirdly, junk food in the 50s/60s here was actually food for families with more money as it was out of reach of poor families (my mum is the same age as Slater and also grew up in the countryside) – though it’s very much the other way round these days. Thanks for explaining it a bit more 🙂

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